Saturday Links June 18th

June 18, 2016 · 1 Comment

Another ridic busy week. It went by in a flash.

On Monday I had my comedy night! It went really well, and I’m so glad I had my friend Sean by my side in it. I’ll write a little more about it later.

I’m really sad about the murder of Jo Cox – there is so much hatred right now in the world. Someone who wanted to make the world a better place like Jo did are being attacked and targeted. Everyone’s lives suck right now – the majority of us are poor and not living as we’d hoped. That doesn’t mean we should turn our backs on people who need help, and it doesn’t mean we should eliminate people who are different to us.

Ugh.

Let’s Linkie!

Like the picture at the top? Here’s the whole set.

As someone who will soon be 30, I hope to leave some things behind in my 20s as well.

Germany ICE trains – fast, but potentially dangerous??

Singapore is so pretty, I wish I was back there now!

As someone who buys cheap books and ebooks, it’s important for me to support authors in other ways.

I’ve found my new favourite blog. Here is The Adored Life – and a wonderful post about blogging and depression.

What millennials really want at work – I agree with all of this!

A sad article – some girls believe that drinking cola will be ample contraception. 🙁

I love the look of this blogger journal!

#lifegoals

When you say something stupid…

HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND!!

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Why You’re Not Getting Replies in Online Dating

June 15, 2016 · 5 Comments

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I’ve taken a bit of a back seat in my online dating life. There is a guy I’ve been on a couple of dates with but I don’t really go out of my way to fill my week with dates like I used to. At the same time, though, I do still get a lot of messages.

Some of them I do reply to. Most of them I don’t. Sometimes I tell them exactly why I’m not interested – I feel it’s helping them. Some people are just very bad at online dating.

So, if you’ve sent a message and the recipient hasn’t replied, perhaps it’s because of one of the following:

You have terrible photos.

I have already written before about the kinds of things you should think about with photos. But just to recap – your main photo should be you alone, preferably doing something fun. Then the others can be with friends of the same sex, but preferably ones of you still doing something fun.

If you have just one photo, then no. If you have just one photo of your face, then no. If you have a photo with you with a girl, it could be your ex, so no.

I know how hard it is to get photos of yourself doing fun things. But tell your friends to help – I’m sure they’d be happy to!

You’ve not written anything in your bio.

If you can’t be arsed to write about yourself then I can’t be arsed to get to know you. Give me a blurb.

You’ve made zero effort with your comment.

“Hey babe”, “Wow, you’re gorgeous” etc will NOT get replies. Read my profile, you can see many things about me to ask about.

Now, I can also be guilty of this. It’s mainly because guys don’t tend to write enough on their profiles so I often say “Hey, how’s your day going?” It shows interest without having to hook onto anything from the profile. This isn’t very good online dating and I am a bad person.

You’ve been rude AF in your message.

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I only just realised I forgot to wipe out his name under the messages. Whoops.

If you’re rude, then it’s not going to happen. The guy above, his photo was very nice. Shirt and chunky jumper, a cute smile. The kind of guy you’d take home to mum. But his first like was “want to fuck?” to which I replied “no”.

That was way back last year, and he does reply to me again from time to time, each time I turn him down. The above convo was from last Thursday. He’s not taking the hint.

I am just not interested.

Sometimes, I get a perfect message from a guy doing all the right things. But I am just not interested. I really wish I could control who I’m attracted to, because I would have found myself a nice guy by now. But I can’t.

Most of the time when I’m not interested I will just reply and say thank you, but no thank you. That can open a whole load of Bye Felipe, though.

Note that if you don’t get a reply, DON’T bug them again! Just leave it! They’re not interested.

 

If anyone has any advice on how to get replies, leave it in the comments!

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Enjoying the Summer with Cranes of Cambridge

June 12, 2016 · 3 Comments

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I’m not so good with the summer. I much prefer winter – because at least if it’s cold, you can put on more layers and get warm. If you’re hot and sweaty, it’s very hard to remedy it – especially if you’re at work, there’s no aircon and you have to wear business attire.

But the great thing about summer is being able to spend lazy days in the garden (either your own or a pub garden) drinking something refreshing.

I’m not one for these large cider drinks – they always taste too chemical and sugary, so I usually stick with beer or a nice white wine.

Enter Cranes of Cambridge*

These guys make an amazing cranberry “cider” (because actual cider is only from apples) drink that tastes AMAZING. It’s really refreshing, just like drinking a yummy juice – but this one is 1.1 units of alcohol. Everything is natural in it, so there are no nasties (it can be hard to know what’s in drinks as they don’t need to list everything, but these guys are open and honest about what goes into them). What’s more, each drink is less than 100 calories – that’s less than in a glass of white wine!

Cranes were made by two (quite frankly dishy) young men – twins, in fact! – who wanted to make an alcoholic drink that won’t ruin the diets of health-conscious people, and won’t taste nasty. Thus, this wonderful cranberry drink was born!

I’ve been enjoying these in the garden and I think the strawberry and kiwi one is by far my favourite!

You can find Cranes at very select drinkaries (luckily there are a lot around Cambridge!) but also at online shop Ocado. So make sure you’re stocked up for summer!

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Lazy Sunday Linkies

June 5, 2016 · 5 Comments

So yesterday I worked at The Strawberry Fair, a free event in Cambridge which is famous for being the place where 16 year olds first smoke weed and get drunk. I was never a cool teen (you’d more likely find me in the library all Saturday) so I’d never actually been before. But my boss thought it was the perfect place to encourage teenagers to think about their careers.

My boss wasn’t able to make it, so I was there with three colleagues. We parked our cars up as directed and set up our pitch. It was pretty much a waste of time because of course kids don’t want to think about their futures. It got to 5pm and we decided to pack up.

Only, we weren’t allowed to move our cars. Until midnight.

No one had told us this.

So my two colleagues who came in on the bus went back home and my other colleague and I spent 7 awkward hours killing time. I went off into town to meet with a guy I’d been on a first date with last week, which was really nice, but then I came back to my car and read my book for the remaining hours.

I am tired and grumpy today. It is not good.

SO let’s LINKIE and make me feel better!

I think I’ve found my new favourite Twitter feed – for the man who wants a career AND a family! Go men’s rights!

Love this post about first date advice! Maybe I’ll try some out next time.

Don’t know what to watch on TV this season? Steven is here to help!

Being not creative in the slightest, it’s really interesting to me to see how logos are made.

I wish they made Suffolk clothes as well! (Does the Norfolk glove collection have extra fingers???? I JOKE)

My gorgeous friends Leather and Abel have opened up their own board game cafe in Liverpool! It gives me another great reason to go up there!

This lobster seafood pasta needs to happen.

Need some travel inspo? Style Lingua has it covered!

This girl is gorgeous and I want her hair.

I don’t know how I missed this but here is John Oliver’s taken on the Japanese military and AKB48

Have a great Sunday!

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