5 Ways to Make “Adulting” Easier

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I have (Quorn) beef with the word “adulting”. It seems that it’s so fashionable to exclaim that we’re not “adulting”, grinning with glee at how we’re not coping to do things we see as “adult”.

I’ve been through this phase as well; I have a  t-shirt with “I can’t adult today” written in caps on it. I wore it on my 30th birthday meal with my family in a rebellious protest against being responsible. 

We live in an age where we don’t get to do conventional growing up until much later. At 32 I didn’t think I’d still be living with housemates, but it’s what I need to do to afford to live in Cambridge. In fact, squelching through the kitchen after my housemate has attempted to mop (drown?) the floor has made me realise that actually there are a number of grown-up things I’m proud to be able to do.

But no person has their shit totally together. We’re all still desperately kicking our duck feet while gliding gracefully over the water. I don’t want people who relate to the “I can’t adult” brigade to feel bad about themselves. Everyone feels that they can’t adult. Honestly.

So for those who want to up their adulting skills, and want to feel better about not knowing it all (because none of us do), here is my list of things to do to make adulting easier:

Use Instagram for Inspiration

It is currently Bank Holiday Monday in the UK. Do you know how I spent this morning? I was going around MULTIPLE shops to buy items I saw on a cleaning Instagram account.

Mrs Hinch is a hot-off-the-press cleaning influencer (no, really) who has saved stories showing viewers how to do everything from clean the oven to keep the loo brush clean. Having watched her stories for the past few days, I (and I can’t believe I’m saying this) couldn’t wait to get cleaning.

Instagram isn’t just for following unattainable lifestyles, it can be used as an education and inspiration tool as well. Cleaning never has been my bag so I’m following accounts to help guide me. You can find accounts for cooking, finance, confidence…anything you need.

Change Your Viewpoint with Podcasts

I’m a huge believer in surrounding myself with the right kind of people. That extends beyond the people I have as friends, but also the people I learn from. I drive a lot for work and get through dozens of podcast episodes a week – I want to make this time count.

I really like The High Low, a podcast by Pandora Sykes and Dolly Alderton. They don’t pretend to have it all together, but they talk through topics in a really thoughtful and grownup manner.

By listening to people like these, I get out of “adulting is hard lolz” being the norm and listen to more people who live life well.

Managing Money with Apps

I’ve already written about this before, but I think it’s important so I’ll say it again. If you’re bad with money get an app that will monitor your spending (!! NOT !! one that will ask for your internet banking password!)

You can also look at Martin’s Money Saving newsletter. I move a bit of debt around and I always consult his newsletter to find the best deals before I do anything.

Being better with money is a huge challenge – it wasn’t so long ago that I was treating my own finances very poorly. But with dedication and the right advice, you can turn things around.

Stop Making a Huge Deal of It

The moment you get out of the “ugh this is a faff” mindset and release yourself from thinking of this as “lol adulting” and more about you making your life and future better, the easier it’ll be.

Creating good habits CAN be really hard, but surrounding yourself with the right voices and the right inspiration can get you picking up tips that will turn your life from being a kidult to full on adulting.

Stop Comparing Yourself

The last thing is to not compare yourself.

In general, we shouldn’t compare ourselves with the people around us (“my friend is a manager already but I’m not…”) or with people we see on the internet. It’s never really as it seems. Lucy Sheridan is a great person to follow to get tips on not comparing with people in real time.

But as I sat here preparing for this post, I thought about the areas I’m working on to be more “adult” (cleaning better, better finances so I can have my own home) and I thought that my mum, by a much younger age had these things sorted.

It’s really easy to compare with the previous generations and to let them pressure us to act how they acted as well. But the truth is that we have much more pressure in our lives, it IS harder to get the money to have a place of your own, and all this extra effort means we’re less likely to settle down as early as they did.

In yoga I learn to stay on my mat – to focus on what I’m doing without paying attention to the others around me. It goes with life as well. Just because you’re hitting a certain age doesn’t mean you should have achieved certain things already. Life is not a checkbox. (It would be SO boring if it was).

 

I hope these tips have been useful. If anyone has any extra ones for me I’d LOVE to know in the comments. And if you want to share the love, I’m trying to get off the ground on Pinterest – would this post be good on one of your boards? (Maybe you have an adulting board?? – I do…)

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Comments

  1. There are cleaning Instagram accounts? I feel like I’ve missemissed something profound…

  2. I am all about the last one, the day you stop comparing yourself with others, its the day you live life freely and as an adult xx
    xo
    Anastasia
    http://www.natbees.com/

  3. I LOVE the photo you used for this- so perfect. All is really sound advice too. I’m only just starting to take managing my money seriously…so I’m very grateful to your app recommendations!

    • Yay! I’m so glad. I don’t know if Monzo is in the US, but I’m sure there is an equivalent if not. Tweet at them and see!

  4. I gave up on trying to meet other people’s opinion of adult a long time ago. I’ve been a home owner, and it sucked. I’ve done other things that so-called adults do, and most of it felt like going against who I really am. At this point in my life, I’ve come to accept that I really shouldn’t try to compare my life to the friends and family who are in long term relationships and own multiple real estate things and blah blah blah fuckety blah. None of that will ever be me.

    Regarding the money tracking, I use Mint (mint.com) and have for roughly ten years. I don’t know if it’ll work for people not in the US; the finance rules are often very different. It tracks all of my accounts, credit cards, loans, retirement accounts, and so forth and gives me a birds-eye view of my entire financial picture, from the smallest savings account to the largest credit card balance.

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